This is the real key for me though: 1 Tim 5:4, 8 – “If a widow (or widower) has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God. If anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.”
I have actually considered this move many times over the last year but my friends have been the ones to keep me in Ontario – not because they talked me out of moving but because they meant so much to me. Just this past Christmas I was looking for job opportunities in the States, something I've done on and off since my siblings and I relocated my parents to the Midwest. I never wanted my parents to feel alone or trapped in their new apartment, especially since we sold their vehicle last year because they could no longer be trusted to drive. And now that my mom is gone my dad’s worst fear is that he will be alone in that apartment.
The last time I saw my mom in September she told me how much she loved having me around and how much it meant to her when I would visit. She had also told her friends back in New York that I was going to move to their new city and get a job! I guess she was right.
So, as hard as this will be for me – and it will be very hard to leave Ontario – I feel a strong sense of Godly responsibility. And I hope one day that my family (siblings, nephews, nieces, great nephews and nieces – who are in the States) will one day feel the same responsibility for me.